Looking for Your Birthmother?

Why Search For My Birth Parents?
 :An Adoptees' Perspective

Adoptees search for many reasons.

Many are looking for an updated medical history or biological answers. Still others search out of curiosity and the hope that they might answer many of the questions that have always swirled around in their head. But the overwhelming reason an adoptee searches is so they can say “Thank You” to their birth parent. There is a need to let the birthparent know that they are alive and well and appreciative of the benefits being adopted has provided them. There is the understanding that they were placed for adoption not because the birth parent didn’t love them or care but because the birth parent loved them SO much that they chose adoption.

There is the hope that they can offer their friendship to the birth parent and invite the birth parent to know them and share in the joy of their life.

Most people grow up with the stories surrounding their birth and first few weeks of life. But as an adoptee, no matter how much you love and are loved by your adoptive family, you are still an adoptee and your “story” began before you were brought home by those loving parents. Many adoptees want to know the “rest of the story.”

Searching for the birth parent is a way to answer many of the lifelong questions as well as helping the adoptee feel they have made the attempt to put the birth parent’s mind at ease. There is no intention of intruding or disrupting the birth parent’s life.